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Free hugs and the beauty of human touch


I just learned from BLADAM member Flathead in the Netherlands that there’s a worldwide movement involving Free Hugs.  I just watched a few snippets, and this just totally made my day! grin

It also brings to mind some thoughts I shared in an early blog entry (”Non-sexual Healin’” )

[...] It was then that I realized how much the whole concept of touch means to me and likely many of my Lindy Hop crazy friends. There’s such a comfort and warmth in—if you’ll forgive the modified Moulin Rouge reference—holding someone and being held in return.

At least in my case (and I suspect, for most others as well), this is all not really about sex or even necessarily flirting. As a heterosexual fella, I still enjoy hugging my friends regardless of their gender, and I likewise appreciate being a follower in Lindy Hop, even with guys.

Sure, there’s sometimes an underlying sensuality in dancing, especially when blues-dancing with someone you are attracted to from the way they look or the way they dance, and so on. But I still think that the overall non-sexual pleasure of touch is one of the leading factors that contributes to folks’ joy in dancing, and this also highlights just how much closeness our American society often lacks.

In much of Europe and Latin America, for instance, there seems to be less perceived overlap between friendly touching and sexual overtures, and I really like and respect that. When I lived in Europe, I found that I was encouraged to give and receive friendly hugs or even snuggle with others without ulterior motives or expectations.

Anyway, thanks, Flathead, for the neat link and good feelings grin.

 

- Blathered by Adam on Saturday, June 2, 2007 at 12:08 [ Permalink | Trackback ]
- Filed under SocietyPeople and relationships
- Commented on by 26 folks so far. Scroll down and see for yourself (and join in the conversation!)


Huzzah for hugs! Thanks for sharing.

- Posted on Sunday, June 3, 2007 at 15:07 [ Permalink to this comment ]

see, people talk about sex in SL all the time. who needs such a cold machine world if you can warm virtual hugs out here… wink

- Posted on Tuesday, June 5, 2007 at 2:11 [ Permalink to this comment ]

Adam!
I wish you get all the hugs you need grin

However, its time to tell us more about the latest improvements within <a href="http://www.google.com/support/webmasters/bin/answer.py?answer=35769>Google Webmaster Guidlines</a>

- Posted on Tuesday, June 5, 2007 at 13:39 [ Permalink to this comment ]

Touch is very important I point you to the film Pulp Fiction directed to Quinten Tartino and in the film John Travolta has a coversation about some rubbing the fet of another man s wife and the husband thru him out of the window because of the foot rub. unwanted touch can even be worse so be careful it is always good to ask before touching anything that is not yours or another person.

- Posted on Friday, June 8, 2007 at 8:43 [ Permalink to this comment ]

Hi, sorry for late reply, but You are always welcome for news of some strange happenings going on in Ams and around.

- Posted on Monday, June 11, 2007 at 8:20 [ Permalink to this comment ]

I like hugs as well and think we need a lot more of them.  At travel conferences the “warmth” and number of hugs is noticably greater than at internet conferences though this may simply be because the gender mix is very different.

I’m afraid you won’t like this change to the Medford Oregon Mascot “Huggy Bear”:
http://archive.mailtribune.com/archive/99/june99/6899n3.htm

- Posted on Sunday, June 17, 2007 at 9:31 [ Permalink to this comment ]

Funny, I was just thinking about this this weekend (after waltzing!). It’s generally so unacceptable in our culture to touch people—or rather, it’s always interpreted as a loaded gesture and not as something simple and innocent—but touch is really so healthy and human. I like dancing for that reason: it gives you an excuse to touch people, and after that it’s like you’ve broken down the barrier of touch-being-inappropriate (it makes your subsequent interactions more casual, you don’t have to think so hard about whether you’ve accidentally brushed their hand or whether it’s appropriate to give them a hug).

- Posted on Monday, June 18, 2007 at 15:49 [ Permalink to this comment ]

Warning: the post below might touch some hidden or obvious taboos in jealous husbands from Pulp fiction or some weak-hearted folks of us or polish origin.

Now, after reading post by SusanM and Angela, maybe somewhat monothematical but anyway, a short dutch puzzle for you folks.

Whats the typical way for a gal to get known some folks in a party, pub, disco or so in netherlands. Also used for “hello, nice to see you again”. Hint: Works for gal(s) vs lad(s) but ( except for some rather obvious circumstances wink ) doesnt for man vs man.

Answers accepted via email. You might win free hugs or “drie nederlandse kussen” (three kisses on cheeks, lrl or rlr, though didnt figure out the difference yet).
Oh shoot, seems I spoiled this one, not my day.

- Posted on Monday, June 18, 2007 at 16:22 [ Permalink to this comment ]

Hey Adam,

Is Matt keeping you very busy or something smile

Long time no post, how come?

- Posted on Tuesday, July 10, 2007 at 2:37 [ Permalink to this comment ]

Hey Harith,

He’s always keeping me busy, but in a good way!  If I weren’t earning my keep in Googleland, I’d feel bad amidst so many hardworkers wink

But I can’t blame it all on Matt or the big G!  I’m also:
- Looking for a new apartment
- Preparing for a big talent show
- Planning personal trips to Louisville, Caracas, and Frankfurt coming up

I do often feel bad for neglecting my blog (and my photos, and my music compositions, and and and)… but my friends ‘n’ family gotta come first.  Especially my friends nearby, who (getting this back on topic) could often use hugs grin

Anyway Harith—and other kind commenters above—thanks for chiming in!  And hopefully I’ll soon have at least a bit new online to share! grin

- Posted on Wednesday, July 11, 2007 at 16:00 [ Permalink to this comment ]

Have a fantastic vacation Adam.  Good luck with apartment hunting - I just found a place and am now in the process of moving from Manitoba to Alberta.  It’s nothing but craziness.

But if you feel like visiting Canada sometime, let me know and I’ll show you around!

- Posted on Wednesday, July 18, 2007 at 15:23 [ Permalink to this comment ]

I think it is rather important to be able to hug a person not because you feel actracted to that person but because you like her in a very friendliy way. It makes the day a lot warmer to everyone…

- Posted on Monday, August 13, 2007 at 1:22 [ Permalink to this comment ]

I too like to visit Europe because of the freedom to express yourself and besides everyone likes to give and get a hug.

- Posted on Tuesday, November 6, 2007 at 7:43 [ Permalink to this comment ]

Human touch is the basis for all happiness. Without the ability to express ourselves physically, it would almost be impossible to survive. (and i dont mean sexually), just the warmth of another human being and the ambient energy that can be experienced with something as basic as hug.

- Posted on Tuesday, November 20, 2007 at 18:13 [ Permalink to this comment ]

Nothing brightens my day more then a nice big hug in the morning when I first wake up, it does seem to get the blood flowing better. I myself have never had a problem with hugging strangers. The people here in Seattle are pretty cool about it as well, although some like to get a little to friendly. Anyway, nice post, this was a good reminder for me.

- Posted on Tuesday, December 11, 2007 at 10:37 [ Permalink to this comment ]

A hug says, I care, a kiss says I love you smile

- Posted on Thursday, December 20, 2007 at 9:44 [ Permalink to this comment ]

Hugs are extremely underrated now-a-days.  Here’s my hug to all of you smile

- Posted on Saturday, December 29, 2007 at 13:03 [ Permalink to this comment ]

I wonder if you have heard about some writings before that hugs can be a medical cure?.I have read it I think in chicken soup for the soul if not mistaken. I think giving away free hugs can be healthy.

- Posted on Sunday, February 10, 2008 at 22:19 [ Permalink to this comment ]

in Europe hugging is quite common, especially among teens and younger adults. here in China I have never really experienced that.

- Posted on Monday, February 18, 2008 at 22:37 [ Permalink to this comment ]

It’s shows the strong relation between two person.
It’s should not be taken as a wrong way.
Hugs is the name of trust.
Thanks for sharing.

- Posted on Tuesday, February 19, 2008 at 4:58 [ Permalink to this comment ]

It is a really cool link. It made me chuckle a little bit. Love the Hugs.

- Posted on Friday, February 22, 2008 at 20:05 [ Permalink to this comment ]

Actually many of psychiatrist today are convinced that hugging is a miracle medicine that can help emotional and physical problems. They say that hugging can cure depression so it is indeed a must for us to at least give a hug to those who are depressed. The best medical advice is four hugs a day—one at breakfast, lunch,
dinner, and bedtime.

- Posted on Sunday, February 24, 2008 at 7:35 [ Permalink to this comment ]

Love for each other in hearts will more effective and give pleasure than a physical hugs,
what you say?

- Posted on Monday, March 3, 2008 at 3:20 [ Permalink to this comment ]

You may be amazed at the recent research that has been completed about hugs and non sexual healing involved in human touch. I stumbled upon a book called “untouched” and it has a ton of info that people would never think about, with research to back it up. It basically reinforces a lot of the info that is discussed at our massage school - I think you would enjoy it.
thanks for sharing the love!

- Posted on Monday, March 24, 2008 at 1:15 [ Permalink to this comment ]

Hugs is show off their love, true love never requires any physical touch.
You won’t find in any great love story the matter discussed on physical relation.
True love always remains untouched and for that no one need to read any book to understand what it does mean.

- Posted on Wednesday, March 26, 2008 at 1:26 [ Permalink to this comment ]

Hugs are such an easy way to feel better about themselves, and just let people let go. Thanks for the link.

- Posted on Tuesday, April 1, 2008 at 22:24 [ Permalink to this comment ]

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